I’m not going to reply publicly because I’d inevitably get accused of bullying for failing to protect the sender from the consequences of their actions when my followers got a hold of them.
But if you’re going to send me a message along the lines of “I like your novel, but I ran it through a filter, and you use too many adverbs, you should consider using less” I hope you know I’m killing you with my mind.
Just mentally holding you underwater until the thrashing stops.
Hope that helps.
I’m going to be honest here, I truly do not understand this “I’m blocking out their username/not replying to protect the guilty” thing. They’re the anal polyps who said something heinous and/or stupid. What precisely is wrong with letting them have to face the consequences of their own actions? Why is pointing out how much of a shit stain they’re being considered bullying, but their being a shit stain is not considered a moral failing somehow?
Maybe this is just brain damage for a childhood and adolescence spent getting in trouble for fighting after getting my ass kicked by bullies, who themselves did not get in trouble for the same event.
You are correct. They are the person in the wrong here. However, there are certain types of people on this hellsite who, when their bad behavior is called into question, will turn around and claim bullying—especially if the person calling them out on it happens to be a ‘big name’ blog.
In this instance, my replying publicly to them would be twisted into ME bullying THEM because no matter how gentle or civil I might be to them, I have no control over my followers, and inevitably someone would say something nasty, and it’d turn into “waaaaah, Ms. Joy replied to the message I sent her, and now I’m the victim of my own actions. SHE should have known better not to reply publicly. SHE’s a big blog. boohoo, poor me.”
It happens fairly often, which is why when you DO see me reply to someone publicly, I’m likely at my fucking limit and am done being polite.
This is the worst online behavior ok, like, literally what is bullying here if you’re literally facing the consequences of your actions, consequences that you knew would happen because u use the website
The bullying tends to come, like I said when other people start behaving not so nice toward them as a result of me publicly posting it.
Sometimes it’s not genuine bullying. Sometimes people just perceive being told, “Hey, you did something wrong,” as being an attack. But there are times when things get out of hand, and the feedback they get is disproportionate to their actions and can become genuine bullying and harassment.
Those are the kind of interactions I’m trying to avoid.
Of course, there’s also the flip side of this, where people intentionally try to start shit with me to get me to respond so they can face harassment. Usually, because they want to whip out a victim card or point the finger at me and go, “See, she IS a big meanie. I told you I was justified in not liking her.”
THOSE are the people I’m talking about and “mocking” up above, and it happens WAY more often than people realize. I filter at least 5-6 messages daily from people who either know I won’t post their name and, as a result, feel safe sending me heinous, harmful shit designed to hurt me, or they are hoping I’ll snap and post a response resulting in them being able to cry persecution and go, “but you’re the big blogger, you should know better.”
And 9 times out of 10, I’m just expected to put up with it and if I vent about it, I’m being callous. Apparently. (<– not aimed at anyone in the notes. This is just general frustration over how people tend to respond when I vent about these things.)
Some people are shitty and will send (anon) hate, death threats, and other bad stuff to people who they perceive to have done something wrong. Like it’s okay to bully someone because they said one stupid thing. If you have a lot of followers, you can draw a lot of attention to someone who did something 'wrong’, including people who act like said above.
Honestly it’s kinda nice to keep people’s usernames out of stuff sometimes for that reason, especially if you know something like that has happened before through your interactions.
I think what fucks me up the most is that each passenger paid at least $250,000 to be in that submersible. And ultimately, as billionaires, that’s like. A percentage of a percent of a percentage of their wealth. It’s like a trip to Starbucks for people like me. There is not a single person in my life whose existence would not be monumentally changed for the better in ways they probably can’t even imagine by having $250,000 accessible to them. And these dudes handed it over to go die in the ocean in a tin can piloted by a video game controller in some kind of fucked up deep sea Major Tom situation
I mean, those 250.000$ did change their lives. I get what you mean, but their lives did change a lot since they took that trip.
You know what? Fair enough. I cannot argue with that.
If you guys had a billion, you’d totally spend it on weird specific shit you’re obsessed with. Yeah nobody should have a billion euros. But some people on tumblr/fandom peeps can be intense about their interest, and some of you would totally do stuff like this if you had the money/it was affordable.
The submarine seems to have failed at 400m. That’s not that extreme compared to how far it should’ve gone. This submarine should’ve gone through more checks. I totally blame the company.
After being entrusted to look after an underwater Shinto shrine, Hiroyuki Arakawa, 79, got to know the marine creatures that lived in the area. He started diving when he was 18.
Among the shrine’s residents is a female Asian sheepshead wrasse named Yoriko whom he became friends with about 30 years ago.
Whenever Arakawa dives to visit the shrine, all he needs to do is knock on metal, and Yoriko will be swimming toward him, Atlas Obscura said.
…At one point, when Yoriko was exhausted from struggling to find food, he fed her five crabs every day for 10 days. He also helped her on another occasion when she was badly injured.
For the priceless bond they’ve made, Arakawa couldn’t be more fulfilled.
“I have an amazing sense of accomplishment in my heart,” he said.
Harry Potter, Rivers of London, Pacific Rim, Pride & Prejudice, Cormoran Strike, Doctor Who, Call the Midwife, Shadowhunters, Stardew Valley, Narnia, the Host, AVPM, Stargate, Gilmore Girls, Legends of Superflarrow,
Becky Chambers, Jane Austen, Ben Aaronovitch, Gwenda Bond, John Green.
